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Worry Free Public Speaking

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When writing this book I visualised all of the problems I encountered when I started public speaking and it it wasn’t for some great guys that helped me along the way and some great help from Toastmasters my quest would have been much harder.  It is for these reasons that I wrote the book the way I did, and hopefully it will provide many answers to those getting underway.  It’s not a small book.  It’s all of 306 pages, and cram packed with information, helpful hints, plus around 130 pages of jokes, quotes, special hints and so on.  To get a real feel of what this book contains, check out the lengthy index – you may just be surprised with how much information has been crammed in.

PUBLIC SPEAKING WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT IT

To a novice, there is nothing more nerve-racking then having to get up in front of an audience (any audience – no matter how small or how large) and deliver a speech.  Not only is the novice confronted with the many factors which include the venue, the audience and the topic.  But there are also the other considerations, such as.  What will I say?  How do I start the research?  How much time do I need to prepare?  To admit you don’t know what you’re doing or how to go about getting to understand what to do, is to take the first step to becoming a good public speaker.

The best actors still get butterflies before a performance.  Especially on opening night.  Seasoned sports people become tense and nervous before the event.  Self assured motivators check and double check their notes and employ a vast number of relaxation techniques prior to their delivery.  And even that seemingly self-assured, the polished preacher wants everything to be just right before he addresses his congregation, no matter how many times before he had spoken to them in the past.

Good speakers don’t just “wing it”.  They don’t just get up and ad-lib a presentation.  They work at it.  Even their seemingly impromptu speeches are the end result of carefully structured, researched and rehearsed material.  But there are reasons why novices (and the more experienced) have trouble with speaking in public.  So lets then explore just five of these.

FACT 1 – MOST NOVICES COMPARE THEMSELVES TO THE MOST POLISHED AND EFFECTIVE PRESENTERS

If this is your underlying fear, then take heart, more that 95% of all speakers fall into this category.  And the reason we compare ourselves this way is mainly due to the technological world we live in. Anything televised is usually made up of takes, retakes, hours of editing, speech writers, professional advisers and a host of other people behind the scenes.  Even a half hour News Bulletin can have as many as 50 people playing a crucial support role behind the scenes. Its the team that makes it happen smoothly.  Their combined experience, working to a proven formula ensures the newsreader looks polished, and credible.  Yet despite all the professional experience and know-how, these front-line people experience the same adrenalin rush, and nervousness as the rest of us at a public appearance.   So take heart.  Everyone gets nervous.  Even the most polished and professional.

FACT 2 – THE FEAR OF DOING OR SAYING SOMETHING STUPID OR INCORRECT IN PUBLIC

This is mostly true when one speaks on behalf of an organisation, or to specialists in any field.  Novices in the political arena are especially prone to this one point.  But the reality is, you only “put your foot in it” when you allow yourself to be side-tracked, or try to comment in areas you don’t have the necessary expertise. Those who research well and quote from the experts in any specialised field, then work with and stick to a pre-planned written agenda rarely suffer from this problem.

FACT 3 – THE FEAR OF REVEALING TOO MUCH PERSONAL INFORMATION ABOUT YOURSELF

This usually never happens if the speaker has a carefully prepared three minute introduction and hands it to the MC (Master of Ceremonies – or someone with similar responsibilities) and does so with ample time for rehearsal by the MC prior to a presentation.  In the main, personal information is only disclosed when the speaker volunteers that information, or encourages others to divulge information about themselves.  On reflection, most times the speaker regrets what he or she volunteered.   Avoiding this situation is simple.  If you don’t volunteer, they won’t ask 99% of the time – even if they think they know you have something to hide

FACT 4 – MOST PEOPLE ARE FEARFUL OF THE UNKNOWN AND UNTRIED

The reality of life is that all people lack confidence in something they had tried, not done, don’t know how to do it, and don’t know how to go about it.  And first time public speaking on any new subject falls into this category.  This in turn makes facts 1 to 3 even more awesome, and in turn appear to be more fearsome.

FACT 5 – SELF-LIMITING BELIEF’S

Another major reason why people are not able to speak in public, or to achieve at their true potential in so many other area, are the self-limiting we accept about ourselves, which are not true, but we’ve purposefully conditioned our subconscious to believe to be true.  Then rather than focussing on the positive, we allow the negative thought to dominate the result.  The minute you say to yourself . . . “I can’t do that”, “That’s too hard”, “I’ll never accomplish these goals”, or a host of other similar negative phrases, your sub-conscious mind says, “That’s right, you can’t do that”.  The same applies to anyone who diets and even thinks to themselves, “I shouldn’t really diet because I always put weight back on again,” will never lose the weight they want.  Immediately the sub-conscious here’s them say that, the subconscious reinforces it with, “That’s right ‘Fatso’,” accepts it as fact, and works with them to help them become fat.  Our beliefs run our lives.  And what we believe we sow, and what we sow we reap.

The sub-conscious mind can’t even take a joke. Anything you say while in control of your conscious mind, your subconscious mind agrees with it, and automatically works at making it a reality.  That’s why so many achievers avoid the use of any dry humour with negative overtones.  When you say or think you’re limited in something, your subconscious mind agrees.  You must avoid saying, “I only look at a slice of cake and put on weight,” because you will.  Your subconscious mind will see to that. You have to consistently look at yourself, your belief system and accept that where you are today is a direct result of where your thoughts, words and actions allowed your subconscious belief to take you.

Henry Ford said, “If you believe your right, or, if you believe your wrong – you’re right’.  In other words, if you believe you can, or you believe you can’t, you’re 100% right.  So where did we get these limiting belief’s from? Sadly, they came from?  Our childhood upbringing.  Our current assessment of ourselves and our personality styles and the decisions we made yesterday.  You are where you are today because of the goals you set or didn’t set in the past.  Our belief system plays a greater role on your life than most believe.  We move toward the things we think about – and anything you think about long enough becomes your reality.  But the worst part is, we move towards the things we think about on a regular basis whether we mean to or not.

Our sub-conscious mind is never selective.  It doesn’t discriminate.  It simply agrees with our beliefs, and it doesn’t care about the outcome.  We have to be aware of what we are thinking, because every negative thought you willingly hold in your mind becomes your goal.  If you believe it, you begin to live it.

HERE’S A SIMPLE FIVE STEP SOLUTION

All one needs to do is to:

1. Learn what needs to be done.
2. Learn how to plan the event.
3. Learn how to rehearse it beforehand.
4. Learn how to prepare for what can go wrong.
5. Learn how to be in control of yourself – your presentation and your audience – and the rest will fall into place relatively easily.

It is my intention to provide the following pages as a fast-tracked crash-course on just about everything you will need to know to make your public speaking engagements more effective and more professional.  The manner in which these segments are written is unique also, and they are designed to build your confidence and give you a edge.  So guard it well and treat it with the respect and confidentiality it deserves.

Worry Free Public Speaking INDEX

About the Author, Peter Collins   

Public Speaking – what you need to know about it          .           .

Fact 1 – Most Novices Compare Themselves to the Most Polished and Effective Performers

Fact 2 – The Fear of Doing or Saying Something Stupid or Incorrect in Public         .           .

Fact 3 – The Rear of Revealing Too Much Information about Yourself          .           .           .

Fact 4 – Most People are Fearful of the Unknown and Untried        .           .           .           .

Fact 5 – Self-Limiting Beliefs       .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Here’s a Five Step Solution         .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Index  .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Before We Begin – let’s attack your fears 

Anxieties       

The Myths that Cause People to be Afraid          .           .

1. Speakers are Born Not Made      .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Good Speakers Never get Stage-Fright    .           .           .           .           .           .
3. Good Speakers Don’t Have to Work at it  .           .           .           .           .           .
4. Good Speakers Don’t Get Nervous          .           .           .           .           .           .

Five Ways to Deal with Anxieties

1. Start Small        .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Begin with a Message that’s Important to you       .           .           .           .           .
3. Know your Material and Prepare it Well    .           .           .           .           .           .
4. Practice and Prepare for things that Could go Wrong         .           .           .           .
5. Visualise and Assume Success  .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Studies Provide Visualization Works

• Carl Wenda       .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Here’s Another Proven Method    .           .           .           .           .           .           .

• Fear      .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
• Nervousness      .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
• Irrational Fears   .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
• Irrational Expectations    .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

The Reality      .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

1. Make the Choice            .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Learn from Others          .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
3. Pay the Price    .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

How to See Yourself Achieving Success       .           .           .           .           .           .

PART A    – SPEAKING HINTS            

Chapter 1 – What image do you project?        

Image        .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

1. Attitude             .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Appearance       .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
3. Body Language  .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
4. Personal Agenda  .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

1. Clothing – Suit, Shirt, Tie, Shoes .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Personal – Hair, Perfume, Shave, After Shave Lotion, Breath Freshener      .           .
3. Vehicle .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
4. Goals    .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
5. Time     .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
6. Family  .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

The Benefits of Good Grooming  .           .           .           .           .           .

First Impressions, Attitude, Restaurants, Managers, Help, Hitch Hikers, Surveys          .

Now Get Ready    .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Chapter 2 – Preparation   

The Occasion       .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

The Introduction    .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

The Speech Text  .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

The Oral Presentation       .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

The Use of Non-Influences          .           .           .           .           .           .           .

The Message        .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Is the Audience Really Listening   .           .           .           .           .           .           .

The Audience Response  .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Chapter 3 – Using your voice     

The Pre-Talk Presentation            ,           ,           ,           ,           ,           ,           ,

1. Be Fully Prepared          .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Find a Topic You Really Enjoy    .           .           .           .           .           .           .
3. Speak Conversationally  .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

The Delivery         .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

1. The Slow Presentation    .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. The Fast Presentation    .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
   • The First Research Test Market Survey    .           .           .           .           .
   • The Second Research Test Market Survey           .           .           .           .
   • The Third Research Test Market Survey   .           .           .           .           .
3. The Best Speed             .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Tips to Relax Your Voice  .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

1. Yawn Before you Get Up to Speak          .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Do Not Smoke the Day Before    .           .           .           .           .           .           .
3. Do Not Drink Alcohol      .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Here are a Few More Hints          .           .           .           .           .           .           .

1. While Driving to the Venue …      .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Arrive Early …   .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
3. Tune into the Audience as they Arrive …  .           .           .           .           .           .
4. Just Before you go on Stage …   .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Chapter 4 – How to speak effectively       

• Most Australians are just Like You          .           .           .           .           .           .
• Most Australians Can’t Spell       .           .           .           .           .           .           .
• One Third of Australians cannot use the Yellow Pages Directory    .           .           .

The Audience Wants You to Succeed     .           .           .           .           .           .

So What Can Go Wrong? .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

To Make the Talk More Memorable         .           .           .           .           .           .

How to Speak for Effect   .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

1. Smile Often       .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Eyeball People …          .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
3. Nod Your Head …          .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
4. Lean Forward …            .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
5. Look Upwards …           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Organise Your Material for Maximum Effect       .           .           .           .           .

1. Memorised Speaking      .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Impromptu Speaking      .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
3. Free Speaking Style9.    .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
4. Presentation Style         .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

It’s Not Public Speaking – It’s Show Business     .           .           .           .           .

And One Last Hint            .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Chapter 5 – Public Speaking – Make it Memorable  

Flexibility in Presentation      .           .           .           .           .           .           .

• Props    .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
• Statistics          .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
• Make it Fun       .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Technical Tips       .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

• Here’s a Hint     .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Chapter 6 – Humour     

• If You Can’t Write Original Humour          .           .           .           .           .

How to Tell Jokes .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

• Writing original Humour  .           .           .           .           .           .           .
• If You Think You Can’t Do Humour           .           .           .           .           .

Some Really Important Hints       .           .           .           .           .           .           .

• Preparation        .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
• Professionalism .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Chapter 7 – Question Time        

How to Set-Up Questions .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

1. Make Sure you Rotate    .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. The Response   .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

• Question No-No’s           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Question AND Answer Tactics     .           .           .           .           .           .           .

1. Avoid Jargon      .           .           .           ..          .           .           .           .
2. Clarify   .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
3. Make Sure You Are Honest        .           .           .           .           .           .
4. Maintain Control .           .           .           .           .           .           .
5. Cancelling Out Objections          .           .           .           .           .           .
6. For That Curley Question            .           .           .           .           .           .
7. Wrap Up the Question/Answer Period      .           .           .           .           .

Handling Difficult Questions         .           .           .           .           .           .

1. Do Your Framework       .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Learn to Work under Pressure     .           .           .           .           .           .           .
3. Don’t Just Listen to Content, Also Learn to Listen for Intent           .           .
4. What is the Agenda?      .           .           .           .           .           .           .
5. Their Biases will Show    .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
6. The Phoney Know-it-All  .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
7. The Triple Barrel Question           .           .           .           .           .           .
8. The Pain-in-the-Neck Heckler      .           .           .           .           .           .           .

How to Keep Control        .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Don’t Take Criticism Personally   .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Value Constructive Criticism        .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Opinions are Cheap          .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

When Confronted by a Tough Audience  .           .           .           .           .           .

• When all else Fails – Smile        .           .           .           .           .           .           .

How to Handle Objections            .           .           .           .           .           .           .

1. Diffuse the Objection      .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Present a Common Goal            .           .           .           .           .           .
3. Focus on a Common Enemy       .           .           .           .           .           .
4. Redefine Your Label       .           .           .           .           .           .           .
5. Maximise Common Ground         .           .           .           .           .           .
6. Offer a Final Solution      .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Chapter 8 – Resources and Research              

Research  .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .

• Three Good Sources of Research            .           .           .           .

1. Business Who’s Who .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Local Chamber of Commerce .           .           .           .           .
3. Your Own Personal Network . .           .           .           .

1. Network and Gather Interesting Information           .           .
2. Interview People Who are In-the-Know      .           .           .
3. Build a Research Bank   .           .           .           .           .
4. Keep Files         .           .           .           .           .           .

Presenting the Research Material            .           .           .           .

1. Credibility          .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Detail    .           .           .           .           .           .           .

1. Quality of your Overhead Material .           .           .           .
2. When you do your Overall Presentation. . .           .           .
3. The Quality of your Work-Book . .           .           .           .

A Point of Warning            .           .           .           .           .           .           .

Chapter 9 – Communication Essentials – Analyse the audience               

Effective Language          .           .           .           .           .           .

1. You need to use Directive Language        .           .           .           .
2. You need to use Directive Statements     .           .           .           .
3. It needs to be Appropriate           .           .           .           .           .           .
4. As a Speaker, Do Your Homework          .           .           .           .
5. The Language ought to be Realistic         .           .           .           .
6. Use Buzz Words           .           .           .           .           .           .

Better Communication Skills        .           .           .           .

Chapter 10 – Visual Aids             

Effective Visual Aids         .           .           .           .           .           .

1. Slide Shows      .           .           .           .           .           .           .
2. Flip Charts        .           .           .           .           .           .           .
3. Flip Boards        .           .           .           .           .           .           .
4. Objects and Props         .           .           .           .           .
5. Blackboard/Whiteboard  .           .           .           .           .
6. Games  .           .           .           .           .           .           .           .
7. If You Still Believe in Overheads. .           .           .           .           .

Chapter 11 – Running your own meeting        

If you are Running your own Meetings    .           .           .           .           .

• Background Music         .           .           .           .           .           .
• Registration Desk          .           .           .           .           .           .
• Name Tags        .           .           .           .           .           .           .
• Keep Control of the Crowd/Audience        .           .           .           .
• Keep the Conversation Flowing    .           .           .           .           .
• Seat the Audience         .           .           .           .           .           .
• Prepare for the Commencement of the Meeting     .           .           .
• The Head Table is on Show         .           .           .           .           .
• Prepare the Meeting Agenda       .           .           .           .           .
• Opening the Meeting      .           .           .           .           .           .           .
• There must be an Impactual Conclusion   .           .           .           .
• Close the Meeting          .           .           .           .           .           .           .
• Business Cards Should be Exchanged    .           .           .           .
• Why a Handshake at the Door as they Leave?      .           .           .           .
• Leave the Premises as you Found it        .           .           .           .           .

Chapter 12 – Getting the basics right     

If you are Running your own Meetings    .           .           .           .

• Who is Running the Proceedings .           .           .           .
• How Many People Might Attend? .           .           .           .
• Who do you Thank?       .           .           .           .           .           .
• Where will you Speak from?        .           .           .           .
• Other Speakers?            .           .           .           .           .           .

Introducing a Guest Speaker        .           .           .           .           .

Introducing the Speaking Programme     .           .           .           .

• Here’s an Introduction Idea          .           .           .           .           .
• How to Set Up Questions           .           .           .           .           .

Chapter 13 – The media            

Getting the Media Interested        .           .           .           .

What if they Want to Interview You?        .           .           .

Here are the Thing’s NOT TO DO           .           .           .

1. Don’t Compare Yourself With Others.      .           .
2. Don’t Try to be Perfect    .           .           .           .
3. Don’t Take Rejection Personally  .           .           .
4. Don’t Avoid Self Praise   .           .           .

Here’s What Else Needs to be Done        .           .           .

How to Speak on Radio    .           .           .

Chapter 14 – Check-list      

More about the Check-List           .           .           .

A Meetings Check-List     .           .           .

The media Check-List      .           .           .           .           .

And a Final Two Hints       .           .           .           .           .

PART B – WORK MATERIAL – The Research is Done     

Most Speakers Avoid Impromptu Meeting – not if the Research is there

  1 – Motivational proverbs                      

Motivational Proverbs for your Meetings

  2 – Real Life Issues

Real Life Quotes and Suggestions for your Meetings

  3 – Suggestions for success                                                                            

 Real Success Suggestions for your Meetings

  4 – Thoughts on Wisdom                                                                                              

 Thoughts on Wisdom and Insights for your Meetings

  5 – The Laws of Murphy 

Real Life Whacko Laws and Quotes for your Meetings

Unbelievable Thoughts of in the style of Murphy for your Meetings

Thoughts of the Great Pretenders for your Meetings

  6 – Amusing definitions                                                                                      

Amusing Definitions and Facts for your Meetings

  7 – Quotes from Anon                                                                                         

 One of the Best Sources of Wisdom for your Meetings

  8 – Quick grab one liners                                                                                               

Quick Funny One-Liners for the Not-so-Funny speakers at your Meetings              

  9 – Quick grab short jokes

Quick One-Line Jokes Help even the Glum seem Funny at any Meeting

10 – Motivational Verse                                                                                        

If you’re Stuck for some Motivation use these 14 great Poems and Verses

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