Four Things That Set Public Speakers Apart from Others

FOUR THINGS THAT SET APART PUBLIC SPEAKERS FROM OTHERS

It’s a fact that many people would rather confront their worse fear rather than speak in public – and that goes for seasoned speakers too. Here are four things to consider that could help set you apart from other speakers and also help you improve in many other areas of your life too.

1. FEAR IN PUBLIC SPEAKING

A study of FEAR revealed the adrenalin starts going and the respiration rate goes up. The same thing happens whenever one experiences high states of excitement. This is common among all athletes – especially world class athletes before they compete.

When you speak in public, the same adrenalin rush starts happening to you, but unfortunately most of us assume it’s a physiological response and we call it fear. And that self assumed fear can be crippling to anyone who is not aware of what is really happening.

Top athletes take that same physiological energy and turn it into PB’s (personal best performances) and into all manner of records. However, all we have to do is to learn to control physiological that adrenalin rush and turn it into active mental energy to also get good results.

Now for the down-side. The day, a top professional (either in sports, or in business, or when speaking in public) gets up and says to themselves, ‘It’s a piece of cake’, ‘I’m just going to get up and give my routine presentation’, that’s the day they loose their edge, or their enthusiasm and perhaps even their ability to communicate benefits that relate to others. In other words, they take a backward step, or even fail.

2. NERVOUSNESS IN PUBLIC SPEAKING

How often have you said to yourself, “When I get nervous others can see my nervousness”. ‘They see me shake’, ‘I blush’, or ‘I simply lose control and everyone notices’. How many times have you worried about that one thing? But, Contrary to what most of us think, the majority of others won’t notice our nervousness – not unless we tell them about it first.

Studies by various academics indicate that in the majority of times others simply don’t pick-up another’s nervousness in public – even if they are well known to the listener.

Your audience doesn’t want you to fail. Why should they? Because you think you are nervous, and because to you it’s magnified, you become fearful of being found out. So unless they do find out. How would they know?

It stands to reason that if most people do not know you are nervous, so why should you be the one to let them know it. How would it benefit you, or how would it benefit them?

3. IRRATIONAL FEARS IN PUBLIC SPEAKING

Most of us, the minute we are confronted by a situation where our actions could help us win, or perhaps cause us to lose, we tend to fear the worst. Reactions such as, ‘Oh my God, it’s a _____________ situation, and I might just blow it’, became commonplace.

But the reality is, most fears are self-induced. In other words, it is our minds that work overtime thinking about the negatives of that situation that cause us to be fearful. Those negatives are really only our self accepted belief’s that either contribute to or cause us to be fearful in that situation.

So what are those fears, and how do we recognise them?

Have ever said to yourself:

• ‘I failed before,’

• ‘I’ve had a bad experience,’

• ‘I usually have trouble with this,’

• ‘It never seems to go right,’ etc.,

• ‘So I’ll probably fail again.’

The sorry fact is, most of us are operating with that sort of a belief system and then spend our time wondering why we’re not as successful as we believe we should be.

4. IRRATIONAL EXPECTATIONS IN PUBLIC SPEAKING

In life, that which we have not yet mastered is usually looked upon as either a complex skill or a subject best left to the talents of others. And we do not even try because we just might fail.

• Does that mean you’ve never failed at anything before?

• Have you not learned, grown and benefited from your failures of the past?

Yet if it were that simple, there really would not be a problem with our irrational expectations, would there be? No. Of course not. The real problem is that we want everybody to love us.

Every one of us wants to be recognised and accepted in just about everything we put our hand to. And that’s one of our greatest failings as human beings. But the fact of the matter is that not everyone is going to love you, or even love what you do, or even who you are.

You could be the best in your field. Absolute perfection in the way you conduct yourself and promote your abilities. Yet still have your critics telling you what you need to do to make it better, work it better or communicate it better. Why, because people are individuals. Their tastes and experiences may differ to yours and sadly, not everyone is going to love you. But if you live your life expecting everyone to love you, you are probably not going to be very happy.

In today’s world, it would be fair to say, the perfect person does not exist.

You can strive for perfection. There is nothing wrong with that. You can want to be as perfect as you possibly can and that is something we should all be striving for. To expect perfection of yourself, and then to condemn yourself for not achieving it, is not good. That perfection syndrome is the one thing that will always slow you down, disappoint you and even do more to discourage you than any one other factor.

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This Article is by Peter Collins – In a sales career spanning more than 53 years, Peter Collins has focused on helping and bringing out the best in others – whether it involves training or mentoring salespeople, managers, business consulting to SME’s. Since the 1970’s Peter has built a reputation as a Nationally and Internationally Published author, and has 68 business books to his credit, but he is mainly known for one book based on the Audio Tape series of the same name, Over 50 Ways of Closing the Sale. Peter had his first book published in 1969 and now has over 133 books in all, including Business, Marketing, Sales, Free Publicity, Body Language, Music and over 30 Christian books to date. Peters books have sold over 2.5 Million copies of his books over 49 years. In his personal life, Peter has been sought after as an encourager and motivator that has given of his time and talents freely despite his busy schedule. Subsequently, he has assisted churches, pastors, community and charity groups, as well as individuals through his teaching, training, development and on-going mentoring.

Four Things That Set Public Speakers Apart From Others

FOUR THINGS THAT SET APART PUBLIC SPEAKERS FROM OTHERS

1. FEAR IN PUBLIC SPEAKING

2. NERVOUSNESS IN PUBLIC SPEAKING

3. IRRATIONAL FEARS IN PUBLIC SPEAKING

4. IRRATIONAL EXPECTATIONS IN PUBLIC SPEAKING

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